You’ve probably heard the saying, “Women love their sons, but raise their daughters”. There’s been a lot of conversation about women lately; more specifically that women are acting more like men than men in some cases. We now navigate in a society where the norms have changed, and everyone has something to say. Everyone from Rev. TD Jakes, Steve Harvey, to Rapper Plies have joined the conversation.

“ are not applauded for your femininity. You are applauded in the contemporary society by how tough, rough, nasty, mean, aggressive, hateful, and possessive you are. ” Jakes declared to an audience of applause. “I know you can buy your own car; I know you can own your own house. So stop coming home bragging to me about how much you don’t need me, and wonder why I shy away” he added.

Many men feel that women should be proud of their accomplishments, but it’s often followed by a disparaging remark about men, especially black men. Jakes feels as though men don’t feel needed or valued if he can’t pour into their women. Jakes says that it’s men’s responsibility to pour into women, and women to take that and make a better life for them. Unfortunately, these men are often belittled by the same women who they feel deserve praise and recognition.

Plies says that he wants a woman to be feminine, not masculine. He basically said that he is turned off by women with masculine qualities. Todays culture will ask you to define masculine and feminine, and say that they are nothing more than labels or characteristics that can belong to any person, regardless of their sex. For those who were raised in a different era, they probably disagree. Today, those comments are seen as sexist at best.

Do you remember Steve Harvey’s movie, “Act like a lady, Think like a man”? It was applauded when it first came out, and so many women said they were going to adopt this philosophy. Today, things are different and a movie with that title and “assumptions” would probably be boycotted. Baby showers and gender reveal celebrations now ask for gifts in gender neutral colors, versus the traditional blue for boys and pink for girls. Things have definitely changed over the years.

Do you think that there are things that are reserved for boys and other things reserved for girls, or are those outdated ways of thinking that should be changed? Is it fair to an innocent baby to assign characteristics and traits to them based on their gender? Or, have people lost their minds by trying to redefine what has already been explained. What do you think? Are women being raised or taught to be more masculine, or are they simply being encouraged to be more independent and self sufficient?

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